Dating After 40: Coupon Use on a Date: Savvy or Cheap?
By R.L. Morgan This may seem like a silly issue, but it came up recently so I wanted to address it. A gal pal shared that she was a bit put off on a first date by a guy pulling out a 2-for-1 coupon when the bill arrived. Even though he was paying, she thought it made him seem chintzy. On the one hand, it showed he knew how to stretch his dollar. And since he was paying, why not get the biggest bang for his buck? On the other hand, it made it seem like the only reason she was along was so he could use his coupon. It didnt make her feel special. She asked for my input. I suggested that if he approached it differently he might have seemed less like a skinflint. When he tendered his invitation, he might have said, Id love to take you to lunch to a new restaurant Ive been wanting to try. And Im hoping it wont offend you, but theyve even given me a coupon to dine there. Will you accompany me? By setting it up this way, hes telling her in advance and making it sound like a special place that hes heard of and wants to try. In fact, on two occasions when a new guy and I have been discussing where to meet, Ive thrown in the option of a place I have a coupon. Ive said, Another possibility is Left at Albuquerque as I have a $10 off coupon, if you wouldnt be embarrassed that we use it. Then he can decide if he wants to go there or not. Another time as the bill came, I said, If it wouldnt bother you, I have a $15 coupon. My date was very happy, not embarrassed. When time for the check, if you decide to split it, the coupon amount comes off the top and you split the balance. Dont say, Well, the coupon covers my share. Tacky! R.L. Morgan, “The Dating Goddess,” brings you her experience from the front line of dating after 40 — having dated 73 men in 2 years after her 20-year marriage broke up. Read her insights and lessons to help you date more effectively. She’s a bestselling author, Oprah guest, and speaker. Read all of the Dating Goddess’s wisdom at Adventures in Dating After 40, http://www.DatingGoddess.com 2006-07 RL Morgan, All rights reserved. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=R.L._Morgan http://EzineArticles.com/?Dating-After-40:-Coupon-Use-on-a-Date:-Savvy-or-Cheap?&id=422366 quick easy military payday loans poor credit payday loans payday loan defaulted contacting references cash advances today
